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These types of negative thoughts often “just happen,” so we call them Automatic Negative Thoughts. When we take the first letter from each word, it spells ”ANT.” Whenever ANTs creep into the mind, they must be killed! We kill them by talking back to them; if we don’t, ANTs become the seeds of future anxiety and depression.
Some people tell me they have trouble talking back to their ANTs because they feel that they are lying to themselves. Initially they believe that all of their thoughts must be true.
Don’t be fooled – your thoughts can, and will lie to you!
Killing ADD ANTs:- Whenever an automatic negative thought enters your mind, train yourself to recognize its type and write it down (see types below).
- Talk back to the ANT – this takes away its power so you can gain control over your moods and feel better.
- “All or nothing” thinking: thoughts that are all good or all bad.
- “Always” thinking: thinking in words like always, never, no one, everyone, every time, everything.
- Focusing on the negative: only seeing the bad in a situation.
- Fortune telling: predicting the worst possible outcome to a situation with little or no evidence for it.
- Mind reading: believing that you know what another person is thinking even though they haven't told you.
- Thinking with your feelings: believing negative feelings without ever questioning them.
- Guilt beatings: thinking in words like should, must, ought, or have to.
- Labeling: attaching a negative label to your self or to someone else.
- Blame: blaming someone else for the problems you have.
Help younger children kill their ANTs by repeating the negative thought back to them and then asking, “Can you be absolutely sure that this thought is true?” Learn more about killing ADD ANTs and overcoming pain from the past in my new book, Healing ADD: The Breakthrough Program that Allows You to See and Heal the 7 Types of ADD, scheduled for release on December 3rd, 2013. Pre-order your copy today. 